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Unexpected phone calls in the middle of the night detailing emergencies and the overwhelming feeling that no matter how you lend yourself to your staff and congregation there will still be a disgruntled member is enough to make anyone want to escape God’s call altogether.

I’m certain, like me, many have wondered how marriage fits into this already full and exhausting schedule.

As professional clergy, navigating the space between public and private isn’t always easy.

To avoid that, I chose to entertain dating relationships with people who were not within the worship community I served and had little ties to it.

Single pastors must consider their dating pool and make a decision that is true to their beliefs.

Following an inspiring sermon, congregants lined to greet me after service.

In truth, I was exhausted from expending so much energy but wanted to hear how the sermon resonated with others as it had with me.

When I understood those two things, I made a conscious decision to exclude my parishioners from the dating pool.

Even if a respected senior member lovingly introduced me to their educated, professional, sweet granddaughter, I’d make her acquaintance but move on.

Unlike typical eight hour jobs, our professional lives can span from administrative oversight during the day to leading bible study in the evening to weekend leadership retreats or church fairs.

Seemingly every minute of each day is accounted for and we haven’t even sat down to prepare for Sunday’s sermon.

Nevertheless, I quickly grew exhausted of enjoying these things alone.

I had to make some decisions about my dating life and I had to do it quickly.

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